I have a confession. I am a recovering shopaholic. I didn't used to be able to leave my house without a designer handbag on my arm. I know it sounds ridiculous and I'm truly embarrassed to admit it now, but for years it was part of my identity and I literally felt naked without one. I didn't feel worthy if I wasn't carrying the latest "it bag".
Instead of coordinating my bag with my outfit. I would coordinate my outfits with my bags. In my mind, I would compare myself to other women by looking at what purse they were carrying. It made me feel better about myself to know I had the nicest bag in the room. I was materialistic.
But as I've matured, I've realized that my materialism was actually masking my low self esteem. I wasn't buying expensive handbags out of greed or a desire to show off as much as I was buying them to hide the fact that I wasn't comfortable just being me. I didn't have confidence in my own worth, so I thought a nice bag would prove my value. I've never felt pretty enough or smart enough, so I hid behind outward stuff. When I finally faced that fact, I stopped needing to buy a new bag every month. I got comfortable going out of the house sometimes without a purse at all. I realized my confidence should be in Christ, not in a bag, my clothes, my hair, my car....
Now, don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with having a nice handbag. I still do pull my favorites out of the closet from time-to-time, but they are no longer a mask I need to give me confidence. I still enjoy them, but I don't LOVE them the way I used to.
This all might sound trivial, but it's just me being honest. I know a lot of us struggle with "things" that we use to mask how we really feel about ourselves.
Handbags might not be your thing, but have you considered what you might be using to mask the areas where you lack confidence? I encourage you to spend some time thinking about what you think you can't live without and examining if that thing might just be masking an area of your life that you should instead trust to God.
Scriptures To Boost Your Confidence
Do you lack confidence in your PHYSICAL BEAUTY? Read 1 Samuel 16:7
Do you lack confidence in your INTELLIGENCE? Read James 1:5
Do you lack confidence in PRAYER? Read Ephesians 3:12
Do you lack confidence in APPROACHING GOD? Read Hebrews 4:16
Do you lack confidence that YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH? Read Isaiah 41:10
Do you lack confidence in YOUR DREAMS? Read Psalm 37:4
Do you lack confidence in asking God to meet YOUR NEEDS? Read 1 John 5:14
Do you lack confidence that your work has ETERNAL VALUE? Read 1 Corinthians 15:58
Jamila is the founder of loved+blessed. On her personal mission to leave a legacy of encouragement, she blogs about her own life lessons with the hope that it will bring joy into others’ lives and help them find the courage to keep walking in faith knowing that all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord. Read her testimony of how God turned her misery into ministry.